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thats not what friendzoning means,it's just what internet and overuse of the term watererd it down to.
So what is a not watered-down definition? Just curious.
when a man and a woman meet,building up a thing,and suddenly, she flips a switch in her head,and the guy turn from man to eunuch. they call it platonic relationship,but it means everything except sex. which is okay, as long as both see it that way. but the guy wants more,and she pretends she doesn't notice. maybe she even doesn't,because he is not a man anymore,he is a platonic "friend" aka eunuch. How else do you explain a sentence like "why can't i find a man like you" right in his face?
btw, it usualy gets a problem when one wants more than the other. if they are even,everythig is fine.
I get it, but some things comes to my mind after reading this.
IMO the answer to "why can't I find a man like you" said in his face, is simple, she is not sexually attracted to that guy. She may values his character or other qualities, but is not attracted and there is nothing to do about it, that's her preference. She is just not that into him. On the other hand, she may keep him as "friend" cause he makes her feel good about herself, wanted, appreciated.
Keeping "the nice guy" around, sending mixed signals until the prince charming arrives ... That's a manipulation. That comes from low self-esteem. On both sides unfortunately. Her for petty playing with others emotions and him for continuing taking a part in it, even after noticing he was "castrated". That's where simp mentality comes from.
Back to the meme (btw. I stan that this whole conversation is about matrix meme), I get it because I was on the other side of that. I had male friends, with whom I was clear from the beginning that this is "only" friendship and i was not interested in having romantic relationship with them. I thought that they get that and being friends was enough.
But after some time, after spending some "kindness coins" by them and by me, my mind of course hasn't changed (cause i know from the beginning who i would want to bang ;) ) and i treated them like a friends, no flirting, just being quite nice and empathetic, but they were still expecting the price. That's why I find this meme relatable ;)
TLDR: She is not that into you and i find this meme relatable xD
the main difference between one and the other is, when you said it out loud right from the start. i agree to that. but you also explained the friendzone again. you say,you know it from the start if you want or not. that is exactly what friendzone means, if you don't want, you sort them into the friendzone. and thats what i think the meme is supposed to teach, so the guys know that there is a point to move on. because we guys are also supposed to put in the effort to win the girl.
without a clear signal the difference is not noticable. also, people in love usually don't have the sharpest eyes for that kind of detail. it's like some fucked up sadist designed that whole thing ;-) you get stupid per design the moment you need to be smart af the most.
"everything except sex" - this is what friendship is. and how is a man turned into a eunuch if a woman is not interested in him? I don't get it.
a person can be attracted to someone then meet them better, and change their mind. this works the other way around as well. just because you were "building up a thing" doesn't mean that the other person owes you sex. friend zone is indeed a BS term. it implies that friendship is something negative because you don't get sex out of it.